This summer, in a group of male friends, the topic of sex inevitably came up—what else, right? But maybe the stars were aligned differently than usual, because this time we weren’t swapping stories of conquests or talking about some friend of a friend’s movie-worthy escapades. Instead, we found ourselves discussing how things just don’t work the way they used to—and how it would be great if they did.
One of the guys admitted he’d bought some pills to “be a man” at home in every sense of the word. But he was too embarrassed to talk to his wife about it, so he hid the box.
Here’s the thing: you should never do that. Wives find everything.
And that’s exactly what happened. Of course, it led to a big fight, because his wife didn’t believe he was taking the pills for her sake. So, even though he was finally ready to step up, there was no situation left for him to step into.
This honest story broke the ice, and it turned out that several of the ten guys in the group were dealing with similar issues—regardless of their relationship status.
After 40, our bodies start to change dramatically. Physically, for sure. It’s hard to keep up with these changes; often, we don’t understand them or even realize what’s happening. We just notice that things aren’t working the way they used to.
I’m approaching 50. I love my age, the way I live, and the way I am. I also spend a lot of time trying to understand how my body works—probably because of my background as a biology teacher. I pay attention to my diet, exercise, and managing stress as much as I can.
There’s a lot of talk about menopause these days, and women’s transitions are becoming more widely understood. But less attention is given to the fact that men go through a ton of changes too. Changes that no sports car can fix.
We’ve decided to start writing about these topics on the Lost Garden blog. Things that become inevitable after 40—though they can still be influenced.
This article was originally published on the vendler.hu blog.